Is Valentine day, a Valid-fine day??

I like to watch Romantic films. The hero portrays something which I cannot do in my life (Lance will say never). Rather than watching adrenaline pumping action films, I prefer for soft, melodious romance films that sweep us all our feet. Recently I watched a film in which the hero says to his love to who he had never conversed, “Hi Malini! I’m Krishnan. I’ve to tell this… You are so beautiful… No one has… seen… err… (Laughs) never a beauty like you. And I think I’m in love with you.” And in a song, the love starts between them. Is it possible to woo a lady to whom you have never talked just by this approach? Most of the films portray APPEARANCE BASED LOVE. That is the hero falls for the girl at First sight. Are such loves stronger? If you love a girl for her appearance it’s Lust. Moving on to other clippings, the hero falls for a girl as she is helpful to public, makes a blind to cross the road, helps a puppy dog that was lying in the street (really torturing that innocent dog) saves her from a villain who is so dumb and idiotic that wasting most of the time in chasing her rather than rapping and by the time he removes her Saree, SPLASH! The window breaks and the hero come from nowhere; lands a punch in Villain’s face (But this same villain will rape the hero’s sister perfectly) or dances in glamorous costumes in rain showcasing her assets. If you expect love life to be as colourful and instant as it’s in the films, you will be in for a disappointment.

 

 

Ask a teen age girl or a guy how you need a life partner or a lover, they would point to some hero/heroine and cite one of their film’s role as example. So much is the influence of films in people’s life. The first time when you responded for your would-bee’s (would-bee means lover whom you believe will marry you… Spppp!! Pity! Pity!) Affection, say girls, she would have expected him to jump up with a huge grin on his face, whoop with excitement and lift her off feet. But with a quiet smile, the guy says, “HOW ABOUT A COFFEE?” After all this was not how the hero reacted in a movie. Teens expect too much from a romantic movie, that at least a scene should be a part of their love life. Watching romantic films could be ruining your relationships as it maybe promoting unrealistic expectations of love. Those who were inspired by YOU HAVE GOT MAIL would have failed to communicate with their partners. Instead, they believed that if someone was meant to be with you, they should know what you wanted without being told. Whenever these movie-like expectations come up they do so reflexively. Girls would have expected guys to do things for her based on that, but later they’ll feel silly. One of my school friends, an ardent fan of SRK, after watching Kuch Kuch Hota Hai expected her partner to be like SRK in the movie, “a partner who was with children” When she said to her mom, she gave red-hot treatment at her butts.

 

Expecting your partner to know what you want without conveying it to him will not work in real life. It’s stupid to expect that. Many couples believe that things will be perfect from day one. They do go to psychiatrists, counsellors complaining they are feeling disappointed in their partners because these things don’t happen. Instead, you can take positive tips from these movies and do something for your partner instead of expecting something to be done for you. If you think about it practically, all the things that are portrayed on screen will not work in real life. Everything is exaggerated. For example, the things that Shah Rukh Khan does in a film are not at all possible in real life. But still, girls go gaga for him. There are others who could differentiate between film and life. The amount a film influences a person depends upon the maturity of the individual, how they interpret what they see. If the relationship is good, you may be able to get together and laugh at how they portray love in the films. Else sit and complain, shout at him/her over phone that “You were not like this hero/heroine”

 

In a good relationship, especially one over many years you do understand your partner without him/her having to say much. But it takes a lot of time, effort and communication and even misunderstanding. This is what I call Love but I may get NEGATIVE (stress it again) comments like I’m SRS, RSS follower. Never follow any films or advice from blogs, news articles, books like How to woo a lady, how to get a girl for a date. Love should come from you naturally not being instilled into you through other mediums. Those who advice how to love, how to woo a lady are worse than RSS and so common guys, Why to watch and read those that preach you how to love a lady? Give a call to the cupid that is inside you. Your cupid and your love and don’t look for other cupids to piss you at your face and say WAKE UP MAN! DO LIKE THIS! You are your master.

 

I am against Valentine’s Day as Lance said being a single I’m against it. I think we should celebrate love and friendship every day! Then why a special day for it? Guys who never give cards and gifts to their Mom and dad, sit at the gift shop for hours, flipping through the cards? One of my friends was in love with his childhood mate for around 4 years. Though he was scared a bit to propose her, taking an idea from one idiot who told him FEBRUARY 14, A PERFECT DAY TO PROPOSE. SHE WON’T REJECT YOU and he never disclosed her for 5 months waiting for February 14 and when the lucky day came, he proposed her, she said OOPS! I WAS INTO A RELATION NOW! 2 MONTHS BACK! I LIKE YOU BUT YOU WERE LATE! So dumber, don’t wait for February 14 thinking it is a Lucky day to tell your partners how much you care for them. I might spend this day as a SAD for Lance; I say Yes and SAD means Single Awareness Day.

 

How happy is life without a Lover (GF/BF)

Reasons why life without a lover (GF/BF) is cool

1. You can stare at any girl / boy... (No one can give me a tough competition in this)

2. You don't have to spend money on him/her. (Big +)

3. You won't get boring result in your board papers.  

4. No lover, no emotional blackmailing.

5. This can be more to life than just waiting for the bloody phone to ring.

6. You won't have to tolerate someone else defining, "right" and "wrong" for u.

7. BF/GF can get so possessive that you can't do anything according your wishes anymore.

8. You can buy gifts for mom, dad, sis or grandpa instead of a BF/GF and have a happier family life.

9. You won't have to waste paper writing love letters. No more endless waiting for your date to arrive at some weird shop place.

 

But there are some worrying factors when the couples go overboard in the name of love. Valentine’s Day is losing its morale. 

Recently I witnessed one who went on to kiss in public at the bus depot forgetting the fact they were being watched by hundreds. I would be happy if they proceeded further and had a LIVE SEX in the street. Oops! What a miss and a mess to the culture? If you go to theatres, never sit behind a couple of corner seats. You will be thrown into a dilemma when to watch the film running in the screen or the Porn film running in front of you. Few might say it is inconceivable how an expression of love by a young couple would attract offence of obscenity. But why to throw it to public? Can we have beds installed all over parks, beaches for you so that you can grow your love? Utter Nonsense. Oral sex is shown in all the beaches and parks, which blemish the true value of LOVE.

 

Sri Ram Sena goes to the extreme of thrashing the lovers at public. They are ready to tie knots for the Valentines today if seen. Mmmphh… If at all they existed two years before I would have stood aside my girl at public for hours. Jokes apart, if we allow this Talibans to exist, they would go to the extreme of saying GIRLS SHOULDN’T SELL VEGETABLES AND FLOWERS TO GUYS, NURSES SHOULDN’T TAKE CARE OF MALE PATIENTS, GIRLS SHOULDN'T TALK TO CONDUCTORS TO GET TICKETS IN BUS They call themselves saviors of culture but they try to take the world back to pre-historic times. So girls, if they come for getting vote, you know what to do? YOU ARE MALE… SO WE ARE AGAINST YOU… YOU TOLD GIRLS SHOULDN’T TALK WITH GUYS and shut the door, apply the principles to them... Taking laws at your hands and beating the individuals in public is sickening and doing it so in the name of brotherhood is more embarrassing, so anyone who believes that women should be free human beings should join in condemnation of backward, oppressive behaviour wherever it is found.

 

To all True Lovers, who love with the idea of not ditching their partners, not flaunting their love in Public, I wish you a HAPPY VALENTINE’s DAY. For others who think it is a day to show off your lust, better book a room at hotel or a resort and have a great night. Love is the answer, but while you're writing for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.

 

This Valentine’s Day send ROSES to SRS, RSS to show VIOLENCE won’t bring a change.

 

PS: So Lance, through our perspective differs, I’m expecting Harsh Negative (Stress it again) critics from you: P these are my ideologies on Valentine’s Day and you know being in Chennai for few years. Remember Merina and Parks and say how they’ve re-defined love. This is what made me a Valentine day hater. You could tell they are exceptional cases but now it’s growing at a rapid speed. I Respect Love and respect True Lovers.

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