F for Friend: Part-2; F for Faith

One may ask what a good friend is. Webster Dictionary defines Good as having moral excellent and well behaved. Friend is defined as one who is understanding, caring, and shows concerns for others.  When you combine both of these words together you have created a good friend. Is this what a good friend about? There are more traits to describe what a good friend is all about. To have good friends you must be a good friend. Here are some of the ways good friends treat each other:

 

• Good friends listen to each other.
  
• Good friends don't put each other down or hurt each other's feelings.
  
• Good friends try to understand each other's feelings and moods.
  
• Good friends help each other solve problems.
  
• Good friends give each other compliments.
  
• Good friends can disagree without hurting each other.
  
• Good friends are dependable.
  
• Good friends respect each other.
  
• Good friends are trustworthy.
  
• Good friends give each other room to change.
  
• Good friends care about each other.

We have loads more to tell, as opinion differs for each person on their attitude. Nothing can come between the friendships of best friends. They laugh in each other's happiness, cry when one is hurt, offer help without thinking twice and thank God that they found each other. If you have been waiting to tell your friend how special he / she is, convey your feelings with true friendship poems even if you are not good at it (Plan to start a new community for BABY POETS) It does give your friend a happiness as you’ve expressed your feelings for him. A true friend is someone who does not expect too much from you and accepts you as you are. A friend is someone who is happy when you succeed, wants the best for you, and is not critical of you when you fail. Some people seek friends (ME!); some people have the ability to attract friends (PJ, VIN, Lancelot, Senorita, ST). Either way, we want to be surrounded with good friends who will be a positive influence in your life. Friendship does not require having to always be doing something for your friend, but it does require commitment; like other relationships, sustaining a friendship is work. 

Between friends, words do not always have to intrude — a comfortable silence can equal more than a thousand words; just being there counts. But friendship is also a responsibility. When someone chooses you as a friend of all the people in the world, they have chosen you as the one they can confide in, they can trust, and they can turn to for support. If we look at what friendship entails, we will realize that the responsibility is not something to be taken lightly, for to be trusted now means that you bear the responsibility of keeping what has been confided in you safe. To betray that trust means that you will hurt your friend deeply.

How to find a best friend? Rather than answering this, we must deal how to find a best friend in yourself and how to get a best in your friend. Searching for a friend is not like searching for a bride, listing out qualities like beauty, caste, working etc etc… Everyone can be a friend but a best friend is a one who brings out the best from his friend. This will help in sustain a long relationship without any complaints. If you are the Picasso, paint him. If you are a sculptor, chisel, carve and model the friend from the rock in him.  I list out the six attributes to be a good friend.

 

 

1. Spend time together: Most friends expect this. The main reason for a friendship gets broken is when the ego comes out “You like to be with her? But not spending time with me? Then why am I a friend for you?” Talk to your mind, your friend can accompany you to films, parties and even to bathroom but he can’t be with you for round the 24 hours.  If you can’t go for walks or to classes together, or missing out a Get-together, then telephone or email your friend regularly. The conversations needn’t be long or personal; those quick “I’m thinking of you” moments can go a long way in making a strong support network. Bury your ego, to analyze things from friends’ point of view

 

2. Make friends a priority: Maybe you “should” go grocery shopping,  do the assignments for me, accompany me to worse films (say DRONA) or watch TV (some people feel they should do that! My friend messages me to watch Reality shows when my mom is hooked to Serials). But give those “shoulds” the brush and prioritize your friendships. There will be plenty of time for those “shoulds” when you’re dead. For now, think about the health benefits of friendship.

 

3. Be there for the good and bad: Show up for the funerals and the weddings, the surgeries and the celebrations! Be sincerely sad or genuinely happy for your friend – and include them on the good and bad in your life, too. One way to be a good friend is to be inclusive.

 

4. Don’t keep score/Count: Who called who last? Who bought lunch last? Who spent the most on gifts? Who forgot whose birthday? Who cares? Who loves most? If you have a good friend, cut a little slack. If your friendship really isn’t that great, then maybe you need to re-evaluate it. Put in the ground, WHO, bury him, then your friendship will be OH!-HO! And outlast the score-keeping cards.

 

5. Notice the little stuff: The conversations that matter the most are the quick little ones that last only a few minutes. It’s not always the deep long heart-to-hearts that bond friends together -- it's the day to day minutiae of everyday life. The entire things you’ve shared in years of school are whitewashed by the Farewell day speeches. True, isn’t it? The entire details of discussing about your Strict Boss, Crack staffs, and innocent class-mates won’t stay in your mind. But think, you or your friend mimicking like the subject under scanner, say “ALL THREE BOTH OF YOU GET OUT OF THE CLASS” or “ALL STUDENTS STAND IN A STRAIGHT CIRCLE” or “TAKE 15Cm of Wire of Any Length” will always stay in your mind and when you meet after years roll by, you will be reminded by these dialogs without altering a word from your friend. One way to be a good friend is to have short, sweet conversations.

6. Focus on the positive: “I don’t like you wearing White Shirt.” “But I love White!” “You sing worse” “But I can Dance better” “I hate Pizzas” “You are dumb to hate it” Thrusting your likings on your friend is not a good sign of friendship. We all have quirks and weaknesses; focusing on your friend’s strengths and wonderful qualities will keep your friendship alive and strong. To be a good friend, forget about the things you wish were different.

 

Some friendships last forever, some are short-lived. But good friends will help you grow stronger, and as you grow older, inevitably you will evolve. The beauty of friendship — of having a close friend, of being a close friend — is having someone that you can trust and knowing that you are trusted.

 

 

To Be Continued….. (Until my brain runs out of ideas)

 

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